A few years ago I gave a talk at an LGBT Youth Group in London about my experience of getting bullied as a gay teenager.Â
At first, everything went great. They related to my story, a few of the kids started crying when I talked about my almost-committed suicide, and they lit up when they heard about my healing journey afterwards.Â
And then, there was chaos!
Something I said triggered the heaven out of them, and what was an inspirational talk turned into an impassioned debate.Â
What I’d told them was one of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned in my spiritual journey that, in all honesty, I shouldn’t have expected them to understand at that stage in their life.Â
I’d told the group that the primary reason I was bullied was that I bullied myself. Because I loathed who I was, I attracted to me people who were a vibrational match to it.Â
How could I expect a group of teenagers, who experience bullying daily, to accept that? I hadn’t accepted it while I was getting bullied, and it was years later that I was able to take responsibility.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t condone bullying and I believe we must stand against bullies and stand up for the people who experience it, every single time. If we don’t, we take the side of the bully.Â
But, at the same time I understand the spiritual, energetic, and psychological components behind it. I understand that bullies bully because they hurt inside And, I understand that the people who get bullied also bully themselves to some degree.Â
In my latest interview on the Lit Up Lightworker Podcast with Camilla Sacre-Dallerup, we talk about her book ‘It’s Not You, It’s Me.’ In the interview, Camilla explains how our relationships are mirrors of the relationship we have with ourselves, and offers practical guidance on healing our relationships on a deep level.
Specifically, in the interview you’ll learn:
- The five stages of self love
- The difference between self-love and self care
- How to not project your issues by blaming others
- How to accept yourself fully and take responsibility of your life
Click here to watch the full interview and learn powerful processes to loving yourself more deeply.Â
One of my goals for 2026 is to strengthen my boundaries around the people I interact with.
I have big dreams on many fronts, and I want to spend my time and energy working toward them — not wasting it on people who drain me, blur my boundaries, or try to take advantage of my sensitivity.
While I was guiding the Energy Reset workshop last week (you can still get the replay — it’s not too late to do it), I had a bit of a wake-up call myself. As I scanned my energy field, I realised I still had a number of energetic cords from low-vibe people attached to several of my chakras.
As I dug deeper, I uncovered something uncomfortable but important.
A part of me was resisting clearing those cords… because being needed made me feel good about myself.
That was a tough lesson to sit with. I felt shame at first — and then compassion. Once I owned it, I was able to go through the process of releasing those cords properly and reclaiming my energy.
It reminded me how many toxic energy attachments we carry without realising it — simply because of habits, beliefs, or unconscious emotional rewards. The deeper we go into our inner world, the more we scan our energy field and notice our triggers and defaults, the more clearly we can identify what needs to be cleared — and what needs to be protected.
With that in mind, here are the top 3 toxic energy attachments I believe are especially important to protect yourself from in 2026:
1. Toxic Cords of Attachment
These are energetic cords connecting you to people, places, beliefs, or past experiences. They become toxic when the relationship is draining, codependent, manipulative, or rooted in obligation rather than alignment.
What makes these cords tricky is that we often choose them — unconsciously. We stay connected because helping, fixing, or being needed meets a hidden emotional need. Over time, these cords drain our vitality and keep us stuck in patterns that no longer serve us.
2. Psychic Daggers (Psychic Attack)
Psychic daggers are forms of psychic attack — intense waves of negative energy directed at you consciously or unconsciously, often fueled by jealousy, resentment, anger, or projection.
These attacks don’t require physical proximity or even personal interaction. Energy travels across time and space. You might experience sudden fatigue, emotional heaviness, anxiety, or physical discomfort after an interaction — or seemingly out of nowhere.
Learning how to recognise and deflect psychic daggers is essential if you’re visible, sensitive, or doing meaningful work in the world.
3. Collective Thought Forms
Collective thought forms are energetic clouds created by large numbers of people repeatedly thinking and feeling the same emotions over time — fear, scarcity, shame, doom, or hopelessness.
When your vibration drops for a sustained period, you can hook into these collective fields and start receiving amplified thoughts and emotions that don’t actually originate from you. This is why fear and negativity can feel contagious — especially online and in the media.
The key isn’t to avoid the world, but to learn how to disconnect from negative collective thought forms and consciously connect to supportive ones.
Inside the Energy Work Membership, I share a full Training Guide on 8 Types of Toxic Energy Attachments, covering five more attachments that commonly interfere with our energy — many of which go completely unnoticed until we learn how to spot them.
This guide is part of January’s theme: Advanced Energy Shielding.
Here’s what you’ll receive this month inside the membership:
• Week 1: Training Guide – 8 Types of Toxic Energy Attachments
• Week 2: Energy Practice – 30-Second Clearing and Shielding
• Week 3: Guided Meditation – Meet Your Energy Protection Guardian
• Week 4: Live Workshop – Advanced Energy Shielding
Click here to join the Energy Work Membership.
Here’s what current members have to say about the membership: Â
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