Nothing is more irritating than being in the midst of a personal drama and having yourself repeat some airy-fairy positive affirmation. Imagine having just gone bankrupt and affirming, “I live an abundant and prosperous life”, or having just broken up with your boyfriend and saying, “I am in a loving and fulfilling relationship.”
It would feel like you’re making a complete mockery of yourself!
Don’t get me wrong, positive affirmations are a powerful manifestation tool; but just like most tools, you need to know how to use them properly, and you need to know how to problem-solve when they don’t work the way you want them to.
Affirmations that Work
Affirmations that work require two ingredients: Positivity + believability
The affirmation has to promote a positive perspective of the situation you are currently going through, but it also has to be believable enough so that you don’t feel like you are mocking yourself when you say it. When you are doing the affirmation, you shouldn’t be repeating meaningless fluffy words, you should be able to feel and believe these words with conviction.
Take a look at the following example:
Situation – I have just been fired from my job.
Ineffective affirmation – “I work in a company who values and appreciates me for who I am.”
Affirmation that works – “I am in the process of attracting a job that values and appreciates me for who I am.”
In this example, I created an affirmation that is positive enough to relieve the negativity of the situation I am currently in, while ensuring that what I affirm is believable from my current emotional standpoint. To do so, I used the phrase “in the process of”, which soothes the definitiveness of the affirmation, thus, making it easier to accept.
In other words, the rule of thumb to making the affirmation both positive and believable is to use words and phrases that generalise it. The more specifically positive you make the affirmation the harder it will be for your ego to believe it, as the intensity of your negative emotional standpoint will reject it. Vice versa, by going generally positive you’ll make it easier for the ego to accept the affirmation, as it won’t completely contradict your current situation.
Do It Yourself
What are your top three frustrations at this time in your life? Write a sentence to describe each one of them, and then use the above formula to create affirmations that work.
Before you finalise your affirmations, test their effectiveness by speaking them out loud and then asking yourself:
- Does it make me feel better than I felt before I created it?
- Do I believe what I’m saying?
What is your experience with creating affirmations that work? Do you have any other techniques that help you do so? I’d love for you to share them in the comments below.