“Who are you to be a Spiritual Life Coach?”
For many years I have been tormented by this question. I knew I had the skills and experience to guide and empower people, yet I couldn’t help but feel that I was an impostor. My feeling of inadequacy kept me trapped in a never-ending loop of taking another class, reading another book, and completing yet another certification course, with the aim of preparing myself enough to eventually be what I knew I was meant to be.
Thankfully, I stumbled upon a quote that shook me to the core, and gave me the push that I needed to eradicate my Imposter Syndrome for good. This was a quote by Sheldon Kopp saying that, “I have never begun any important venture for which I felt adequately prepared.”
What’s liberating about this quote was that it freed me from the very basis of the Imposter Syndrome, which required me to be perfect in order to follow my purpose, and gave me permission to take action now! This simple shift of getting out of my head and into my body was all that it took to free me from the Impostor Syndrome for good.
Keep reading to see how this works.
The Impostor Syndrome
The Impostor Syndrome is a construct of the ego suggesting that however much you’ve achieved, learned, and experienced, you are still not prepared enough to follow your purpose; and if you do, you are a fraud! It is a feeling of inadequacy that urges you to keep learning and training until you reach the state of perfection that will qualify you to live your dreams.
Unfortunately, the ego is rooted in, and thrives on fear; therefore, it will never allow you to reach that state of perfection. It will, instead, keep giving you excuses to keep feeling like fraud and never get started.
Get Out of Your Head
Since the Impostor Syndrome is a construct of the ego, and the ego resides in your head, the way to bust it is by getting out of your head!
Sure, you can momentarily beat your ego’s limiting chatter by doing positive affirmations, praying and meditating, therefore, using your head to overcome it. Yet, I’ve personally found that, whereas all these tools are effective in the moment, as soon as I stop practicing them I easily drift back to re-playing the same old impostor tape.
What I found to be a much more lasting way of dealing with the impostor syndrome, is by getting out of my head and getting into my physical body. This is another way of saying, taking action.
By taking action towards the activity that the ego believes you are an impostor of, you prove it otherwise. In other words, when you actually do the thing you are most afraid of, then there’s nothing left to be afraid of because you’ve already done it! The Impostor Syndrome can only thrive in your inactivity, because it has no data to challenge its authority. When you provide it with challenging data by taking action and proving it wrong, then it’s got no basis for its limiting suppositions, and you are free to follow and fully own your purpose.
Do you suffer from the Impostor Syndrome? How are you dealing with it? Let me know in the comments below.